In the first place, i dun even think that relationship during teenage years is mostly based on love. It is more to lust and pure satisfaction. By satisfaction, i mean the feeling of superiority when we have a boyfriend or girlfriend to boast off. Especially for teenagers who are very self-concious, they want to have a boyfriend or girlfriend to feel more confident about themselves as maybe they feel they are fat or ugly and get teased because of it so by having a boyfriend or girlfriend, they can show to people that they do have the charm to be in a relationship. In the first place, there is no ugly people in this world. Only lazy people.I read and heard that from alot of bloggers and i think it is somewhat true.
I mean no matter how ugly you think you are, but with
Some other reason why i think it is not ok to be in a relationship in our teenage years:
Immature
When was the last time you used the 100 bucks you had and transfer it to your bank account to save for future use in case of emergency instead of spending it on new arrival shoes or more clothes than your wardrobe can fit? i think that never happens right? as teenagers, our thinking is very shallow. We only think about the present and not much about the future. When our parents give us 50 bucks, we spend it all not thinking to save it for some other days. That is because we are still immature in thinking. We are still expecting fun and more fun from life and our parents try their best to distant us away from the reality and bitterness of life. So when we experience the ups and down of life, we do not know how to cope with it and crumble. I have seen too many teenagers like myself especially girls crying as if sumbody died after a break-up. Night and day they will be pondering about the reason for the break-up and can't seem to accept reality.That is because we are still immature in life and also love. Our mind is not matured enough to be in love or even think about being in love. Truthfully, we do not know what love is. We just think love is when a girl like a guy or a guy like a guy whichever that is, then that is love. But no, that is not love. Love is sumting more deep, more complex and complicated that even adults can't handle, much less teenagers.
Expecting too much
All the fairytales and the happy ever after we watch when we were kids help us understand that life is fun and love is beautiful but not much of a help when we grow. Looking at how beautiful and happy the characters were in the fairytales, you will expect that being in a relationship would always be with laughter and no sadness. So when the first fight comes, you end up dissapointed because you put so much hope that your relationship would be as happy as a fairytale. You would also compare. Like, how come my bf/gf never do this for me ah? in the fairytale or love story i watch, the gf/bf always do this wat. You would end up complaining always. In the end, the relationship turns sour.
Peer-pressure
Especially in secondary school life during our rebelious and curious stage, we would always be jealous of what our friend have. When we see our friend have a bf/gf picking them up and waiting for them,going for recess together,have someone to rely on. We end up jealous. Then when the friend instigate you to have a bf/gf, you would follow what the friend say because to you,having a bf/gf is the coollest thing and if you dun have one, means you are not cool. You also would feel not wanted and not popular if you dun have a bf/gf whereas all your other friend have. The jeering "aiya, you so ugly of coz you dun have bf/gf la." made you lose face and determined to find a bf/gf at all cost just to prove to your friend.
Lust
Seriously, all tv shows mostly from Hollywood are too obscene nowadays. Even channel 8 shows now have kising and sensual scene but Hollywood are more hardcore with all the moaning and groaning.lol. Of course, all those things can only be done between girlfriend and a boyfriend. So, being curious and a hot blooded teenager, you want to experience it for yourself. You want to know the feeling of kissing sumone. How it feels when someone gropes you and caresses you.haha. You find a gf/bf just to experience it. No wonder, there are more teenagers who are not a virgin than teenagers who are still a virgin like me! Passion for purity babe! Plus, my teacher once told me that sex is just a connection between two bodies and in order to have full satisfaction from it, it is best to be done with sumone you truly love. Well being a sec 1 boy and innocent, i obviously didn't think much about what was said. Now, being more educated,haha. I know what she mean by connection. Like in most manual, Step 1: Connect the cable into the PC. SO in other words it means insert the cable into the PC. SO connection between two bodies means.lol.
Money
I do not understand why guys have to pay for everything when a couple goes out. From eating to entertainment, the guys always settle the bill. To be fair, some girls do offer to pay. For guys, Pride is everything and our ego are the thickest so we say no when the girls wanna pay. Some girls are sincere in paying but some knows a guys pride would hurt if a girl pay so they know the guy would obviously want to pay so only act2 lor.haha. It wouldn't be a problem for guys to pay when the couple go out but when you are still a teenager, you are not working. Thus, you wouldn't have much money. What our parents give also would not be enough for our own use, much more for two person? So when the couple goes out and the guys say "Let me pay for you" the girls please dun believe. He should say "Come, let my PARENTS pay for you". Like my mother always say "No Money=No Girlfriend!"haha.
Well those are 5 main reasons to why i think teenagers should not have a relationship. Especially in Secondary School life. Maybe you can fall in love when you are in Pre-University when we are working part-time maybe and earning some income but definitely no when we are still so young. Plus , why would you want to tie yourself down when you can have all the fun in the world while you can? Not being able to look at other gal/boy, all the jealousy.
Speaking for all the single teenagers out there. "Ha! I can look at all the girl/boy i want but you attached teenagers can't! i can sleep with all the gal/guy i want but you can't!haha."
A funny video to end this post.
p/s: I wanted to add pictures to the post but i am just not patient enough to wait for blogger to upload it all. So sorry.
Kamsa Hamnida!
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Labels: lust, Money, peer-pressure, Teenagers relationship
